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Complaint Free World

Updated: Dec 9, 2019

“If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all. You don’t need that energy going out into your world.”

One of the most positive people I have ever met has to be our very own head coach, Joe.

He was wearing a bracelet that he had gotten from another CrossFit box that simply said “A Complaint Free World.” When I asked him about it he said it was pretty simple. Any time he complained he would snap his bracelet to remind himself to stop complaining. He said it really helped. He wanted to bring this positive way of being to our athletes at TCF.


I’ll be the first to admit it….I complain, a lot. I can complain about the weather, my drive to the store, my kids, my clothes, my house, my horrible sleep from the night before….and the list goes on and on. I am very aware I complain, but I have never really thought about the effects of my complaining on my own mindset and those around me. So I was curious and ordered some bracelets just like the one Joe had.


When I ordered the bracelets for our box I also ordered the book “A Complaint Free World” by Will Bowen. I then complained about not having time to read the book. And then complained about having to write about the book because….well, as I said before I can complain.


Once I got over myself and took the time to read the book, I realized what an amazing gift I have been given. According to Bowen “if you want others to change, you must change first.” There is a way to be happier, to be a positive role model and to effect change. It would take 21 consecutive days without complaining. It’s hard to change something you may not be aware of, and when you actually become aware you think it will be easy. “It is part of human nature to think it will be simple to master,” says Bowen. He also says that “complaining can be likened to bad breath. We notice it when it comes out of someone else’s mouth, but not when it comes from our own.”


I’ve only just begun myself, but if you’re interested in moving towards a complaint free world, the steps are simple according to Bowen (note I said simple, not easy):

  • Take a bracelet and begin to wear the bracelet on either wrist.

  • When you catch yourself complaining, gossiping, or criticizing, move the bracelet to the other wrist and begin again.

  • Stay with it. It may take many months to reach 21 consecutive days. The average is 4 to 8 months

These are only spoken complaints. Feel free to think it all you want (you will notice it will lessen over time)! As Bowen says, “complaining is a habit, and taking a moment just to breathe gives you a chance to select your words more carefully.”


Some of the quotes from the book that resonated with me:

“Change your words, change your thoughts, and you will change your life.”
"Our thoughts create our world, our words indicate our thoughts. When we control our words by eradicating complaining, we create our lives with intention and attract what we desire.”
“Two-thirds of illnesses originate in the mind. There is a connection between the mind and the body. What the mind believes, the body manifests. Dozens of research studies have shown that what a person believes about their health leads to that belief becoming real for them.”
“When we complain, we may gain the benefits of attention or sympathy. We may also avoid having to do something that causes us to stretch.”
“Change your words, change your thoughts, and you will change your life.”

A Complaint Free World at Triangle Crossfit

  • Come out to our seminar on 12/7 at 9:30 am to learn more and ask questions about it.

  • Grab a bracelet and give it a shot! Try to go without complaining for 21 days. Use the bracelet as your reminder!

  • The bracelets are free to any TCF member, but if you would like to donate any dollar amount, every dollar collected will be donated to meals on wheels! They will be at the front desk.

  • If you would like to borrow the book, then feel free! All we ask is that you keep it for a week and return it to the shelf under the fridge so that others may borrow it.

Author: Erin

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